High-Conflict Divorce Lawyer for Women

Skilled High-Conflict Divorce Attorneys Providing Women with Support and Guidance 

a couple arguing with one another and holding money and paperwork.Very few divorces go through without any conflict. It is expected that a couple who have chosen to separate will disagree on key issues and will need guidance on how to finalize their divorce.

However, a high-conflict divorce is different and is often a result of a marriage that was defined by toxic relationship dynamics. For example, if one spouse was controlling and abusive during the relationship, then the subsequent divorce is likely to be high-conflict.

Most divorces are emotionally challenging, but a high-conflict divorce can be particularly damaging and often leads to a long, drawn-out process, especially if you have children. That is why it is so important to have experienced representation.

An experienced high-conflict divorce lawyer will support and guide you to keep your divorce moving forward. They will also set boundaries to ensure that your ex-spouse is unable to manipulate the situation to get what they want.

WSM – Assisting Women Through High-Conflict Divorce

At WSM, our divorce attorneys exclusively represent women, which gives us a unique ability to meet their needs and support them through a high-conflict divorce. We will help mitigate stress by using tailored legal strategies for divorces involving abusive and high-conflict spouses.

When faced with a difficult divorce, you need an attorney who truly cares and who knows how to navigate the challenges that these cases bring up. At WSM, we know how to put boundaries in place and will ensure that your voice is heard.

We are advocates for women’s rights and believe that the first step in supporting women through a divorce is empowering them with knowledge of their rights. We will keep you informed at every stage so that you have full agency throughout your divorce. We will support you in every negotiation, decision, and court action.

Although a high-conflict case is likely to involve the divorce court, our attorneys will work to prioritize negotiation where possible. Where this is not possible, we will be prepared to fight for your rights in front of a Judge.

It is important that a difficult spouse is not allowed to control the situation. The outcome of your divorce decree is legally binding and will have a huge impact on your future. Decisions regarding child custody, spousal support, and property division must be taken seriously, and with us, by your side, you will know that you did everything necessary to protect yourself and your children.

Contact us today at 380-212-3731 to arrange a free consultation with a dedicated high-conflict divorce attorney. We proudly represent women throughout Indiana, Michigan, Ohio, and Texas.

Signs That Your Divorce is Likely to Be High-Conflict

A couple looking upset and arguing with their hands in the air.Each case is unique, and there is no complete list of signs that indicate a high-conflict divorce. However, some common signs that your divorce is likely to be a high-conflict case include:

  • The case has already involved multiple attorneys.
  • Alternating periods of calm and chaos.
  • The need for a protection order, such as an order which keeps spouses away from each other or prevents one spouse from handling marital assets.
  • A history of abuse, including financial, emotional, sexual, or physical abuse.
  • Gaslighting behaviors, which is where one spouse makes the other question things that they know to be true.
  • Conversations quickly turn into arguments.
  • You are seeking an at-fault divorce.
  • Arguments around child custody.
  • One spouse has a high conflict personality which is characterized by a tendency to identify themselves as a victim to give themself permission to act badly. Someone with a high-conflict personality has little capacity for introspection.
  • One spouse has a mental illness that has become unmanageable.
  • One spouse has an addiction.
  • One or both spouses making threats, such as threatening to prevent the other from seeing their children.
  • Controlling and manipulating behaviors, which could be conscious or unconscious behaviors.
  • An inability to compromise and reliance on court involvement.
  • One spouse refuses to accept responsibility for anything.
  • One spouse has hired a lawyer who is known to be combative.
  • Constant communication, such as constant texts, emails, phone calls, or in-person communication.

How to Deal With a High-Conflict Divorce 

High-conflict divorces are incredibly challenging. Although each case is unique, here are a few tips on how to navigate your case.

Hire a Top Women’s Divorce Attorney

Our number one piece of advice is to hire an attorney who is experienced in high-conflict divorces. Your attorney will help to protect your rights and well-being and will be a source of support throughout the entire divorce process. With knowledge and experience in high-conflict divorces in the past, they will be better equipped to handle your case, no matter how complicated it is.

Educate Yourself

At WSM, we believe a key aspect of helping women through a divorce is educating them about their rights. We will offer some practical strategies and realistic advice on how to handle each aspect of your divorce, including handling divorce court.

You can also discover tips online by speaking to a therapist or life coach or by reading some divorce books for women. Whether you are concerned about dealing with a narcissistic spouse, coping skills, setting boundaries, or creating a post-divorce budget, there will be information out there that can help empower you.

Identify Your Spouse’s Behaviors

Once you start recognizing your spouse’s abusive patterns, you may begin to increasingly notice their unacceptable behaviors, such as manipulation tactics and gaslighting.

Once you begin to recognize their behaviors, you can then point them out, or simply walk away from the situation. It isn’t easy, and it is important to have support in place from either a coach or therapist or friends and family.

Prioritize Self-Care

mother comforting and protecting her crying daughter.A high-conflict divorce can be one of the most difficult things a person ever deals with. Therefore, you should take steps to prioritize physical self-care and good mental health. For example, consider talking to a coach or therapist, taking part in relaxing and fun activities, and spending time with friends and family.

Establish Boundaries

If you are dealing with an abusive person, then it is important to establish and maintain boundaries. Your attorney can help you achieve this by helping you to clearly define your goals and limits clearly, and providing a space for you to communicate openly.

When your attorney understands the importance of boundaries, they will not allow your ex-spouse to control negotiations and will help you to set clear limits on when and where divorce matters can be discussed.

Remember, you are under no obligation to stay in an argument and can walk away or turn your phone off. You cannot control your ex-spouse, but you can begin to control how you react to them.

What If I Am the Cause of the Conflict?

If you believe that you are the main cause of conflict or that you are contributing to it, then you should know that recognizing your behavior is the first step to making positive changes. At WSM, you can speak with us honestly and openly without fear of judgment. We can help you to identify your behaviors and will advise you on how to minimize conflict and move your divorce forward.

We are always honest with our clients and will do whatever it takes to promote their well-being and the best interests of their children.

You may also decide to work with a therapist who will work with you to identify and change old habits. A therapist could help you to communicate more effectively so that you can move forward with your life in the best way possible.

Protecting Children in a High-Conflict Divorce

Divorce is always difficult for children. However, a high-conflict divorce is particularly traumatic, so it is important to make conscious efforts to protect them.

At WSM, we always prioritize the needs of children and will help ensure that all decisions are made with their best interests in mind. We will also advise you throughout the proceedings to help you maintain healthy parenting skills such as:

  • Never involving your children in conflict.
  • Never discussing the specific details of the divorce with your children.
  • Never expressing your negative feelings about your ex-spouse to your children.
  • Never using your children to manipulate your punish your ex-spouse.

High Conflict Divorce and Child Custody

We will help you reach a co-parenting plan that meets your needs and those of your children. It is generally considered in the best interests of children for both parents to have a significant role in their lives.

It is important to understand that a difficult spouse is not always a bad parent, and if they don’t pose a risk to your child’s wellbeing, then you should try and cooperate with them.

However, if you are concerned for your child’s well-being around your ex-spouse, then we can help you file a protection order to keep them away from your child. We will then help you give evidence to the Judge as to why you should be your child’s sole custodian.

Thanks to our dedication to women, we have created a safe space for them to share their experiences. If your ex-spouse poses a danger to you or your child, then we want to help.

High-Conflict Divorce For Women FAQ

Legal separation is an alternative to divorce, where a couple remains legally married but secures court orders on issues that would be typically decided upon divorce, such as child custody and property division. Not all states allow for legal separation, but Ohio and Indiana do.

People may choose a legal separation for religious reasons, to maintain insurance benefits, or because they hope to continue the relationship one day. However, if your case is in high conflict, then the decision to legally separate must be made with great care and consideration. You should speak to an attorney who can ensure that you understand all of the implications before making your decision.

Divorces can take anywhere from a few months to over a year to settle. However, high-conflict cases tend to take longer, especially if one party doesn’t want to cooperate. An experienced divorce attorney can help you keep moving the process forward without compromising your rights.

Property is divided in line with state laws. Indiana and Ohio are both equitable distribution states which means that property must be split in a just and fair way upon divorce. This is not always an equal split, and if your ex-spouse has been abusive or is behaving badly during the divorce, then this could be taken into consideration when dividing property.

Generally, each spouse is expected to pay their own legal fees. However, if there is a significant wage disparity, then the Judge could order one spouse to pay the other’s fees. They may also be more likely to do this if that spouse has been abusive or has acted in bad faith by hiding assets or not cooperating with the court.

Oftentimes if your divorce is going to be high-conflict, then there is no way of avoiding it. However, just because there are signs does not make it unavoidable. The high conflict between you and your spouse will make your divorce more time-consuming, traumatic, and expensive, and it does not benefit anyone. At WSM, we strive to minimize conflict wherever possible.

Speak to a High-Conflict Divorce Lawyer For Women Today

Regardless of the circumstances of your divorce, we can help. Our team has a diverse range of skills and experience, and we will assign an attorney who is most suited to your case.

We understand how to provide empowering strategies for women negotiating a difficult divorce. We will set boundaries, give you the tools you need to take control of your situation, and will advocate fiercely on your behalf at every stage.

We exclusively represent women in Ohio, Indiana, Michigan, and Texas in family law matters. As a result of our narrow focus, all of our time and energy is dedicated to helping women like you.

Our goal is for you to feel confident about your future.

Arrange a free consultation with an experienced high-conflict divorce lawyer at 380-212-3731